Assert control over how you spend your time. Get up when you want. Go to bed when you want. Exercise when you want. Work when you want. Pursue hobbies when you want. You decide how to spend every minute of every day. If that sounds like a fantasy, then you’ve allowed your personal standards to fall so far that they’re actually lower than those of a pigeon. If a pigeon gets to decide how to spend its time each day, why should you deserve any less? Surely you can exert more control over your life than a pigeon can. You are smarter than a pigeon, aren’t you?
Take control of your living space. Decorate it however you like. Maintain the level of cleanliness that you desire. Get rid of whatever you no longer want. Create a living space that pleases you. Don’t worry about what other people think of it. Make it fully your own, even if there’s just one room you can control.
Take control of your relationships. Spend time with the people you want, when you want, and how you want. Reject invitations that don’t inspire you. Issue invitations for the connections and experiences you’d like to have in your life. Let people know where your boundaries are, and if they cross those boundaries, drop them, relative or not.
Is this going to make you an anti-social ogre? Nope. All I’m suggesting is that you raise your standards back up to those of a pigeon. You can still meet your needs without becoming a stressed-out, dominated doormat. With higher standards you’ll not only be less stressed, but you’ll be a lot happier too. People will treat you with more kindness, respect, and fairness if you stop tolerating the opposite. Money also has a tendency to flow more abundantly through the lives of people who respect themselves; giving your power away repels financial abundance and attracts financial slavery.
Stop making excuses for why it’s okay to keep giving your power away. Stop acting helpless, needy, and desperate. Your life depends on this.
Reclaim your power, raise your standards, take control, and save your own life.